What makes some people joyful and others not? Have you met people who have very little and are happy and joyful, while others who seem to have it all, lack happiness and joy? Research shows that joy is not attached to what we have, how much we earn or what we accomplish or achieve.
Joy is an inside job. In today’s world we are flooded with messages that tell us our joy is outside us, that we can buy it, and that our things and accomplishments will bring us more joy.
Things can make us happy. Who doesn’t like a new pair of shoes? But, that’s not joy. Happy is on the surface. Joy is right at our core. Joy doesn’t come to you – it is you. And, we all have a never-ending supply. How exciting is that?
I feel most alive, free and expansive in my joy. It’s a vibrant and peaceful feeling that I call ultimate well-being. Laughing, spending time with my grandson and meditation all tap into my well of joy. I have a friend who feels joyful and free when she is dancing.
Finding our way to lasting joy and learning to express it may be the most important thing we do in our lives. Here are 3 things you can do right now to re-connect to your joy.
BELIEVE THAT JOY IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT
Remember that your joy is in you at all times. It’s more than a holiday feeling. We came into this world as “little bundles of joy.” By the time we are adults, our inner joy can be buried under heaps of cultural beliefs and layers of negativity because that’s how many of us were raised and continue to focus.
Beliefs play a large part in finding and expressing your joy. When you can accept that joy is your birthright and that you are worthy of being joyful it will be easier to allow your joy to rise to the surface. Joyful people make feeling good a priority. They focus on what’s right and wonderful more so than on what’s wrong or missing.
ENJOY WHAT YOU DO
I worked with a man who was at a crossroads and was ready to explore his options and make a new career decision. He wanted this turning point to be an opportunity to live and work in a new and meaningful way. But, there was a big piece missing in his puzzle. He discovered that the missing piece was his joy.
Instead of leaving everything to find a new career path, he vowed to spend time exploring and doing everything that made him happy and feel his joy. He realized that his joy and happiness were his starting point and that his vision and goals would come from his joy.
He shifted his thinking from what should I do to what do I want.
A woman I know said if she had to give her joy a colour it would be yellow and effervescent and that she just can’t keep it bottled up. Learn to recognize your joy. It is an expression of love. Its energy gives and receives openly and completely. Joy flows out of you.
What I’ve come to realize is that Joy is also a state to grow into and it takes practice. First we find it in ourselves…then we share it with everybody and everything, like our planet…it could use a little joy right now. And before you know it, everything you do or say has part of your joy in it.
I know this may sound simple and easy and if you could do it you would. It’s just not easy now. Sometimes we all need someone by our side to help guide us through the path of change. Yes you can do this. We can do this together.